Dear Frustrated Parent!
I know you have a mission.You are meant to be a loving, compassionate, wise parent, right?
It’s your passion and one of your purposes in life. So why are you feeling stuck?
Like so many other parents, your goal is that your child(ren) will be successful in all aspects of life. You know that you can only raise your child once.
Yet, you’re just not exactly sure on what to do next. Wouldn’t it be great if you had the tools that could teach you how to be the best parent you could possibly be? After all, children don’t come with a manual. This course will teach you how to connect with your intuition and will empower you to create new effective ways to relate to your children.
Discover a new understanding of your role as parent or caregiver. You will be provided with the tools, tips and resources to create cooperative, meaningful relationships with your children and loved ones in order to have a happy home and peace of mind.
Let me shine a light into why you might feel stuck… It’s not your fault.
Throughout history, the main focus in life was not specifically projected around feelings, emotions and happiness. Power and violence were used to raise children. Fear ruled substantially in many areas of life. The way people looked at children, and many still do, was as seeing children as their possession and they should be molded into the adults visions. Respect for the uniqueness of the child’s being was not part of thinking patterns.
Our family experiences and burdens determine our lives today. Neuro science shows that traumas are stored in the brain for several generations. How many people do you know who really thrive, feel successful and live in a harmonious family? Often it is just about surviving in life. The baggage we carry we cannot get rid of easily either. YOU want to make changes, but how?
Many people raise their children based on fear, the fear of: “What if…” But we cannot control what will happen. We cannot control others without their compliance. The world is dangerous and always has been, we just know more about it. Today, kids barely play outdoors anymore, though free play is extremely important for a balanced development. Schools are overwhelmingly large, non-personal and create in general a lot of pressure for children. Competition instead of cooperation is often the primary focus. Competition alienates children’s from each other, ruins friendships and creates negativity in the person, fear of failure or success and lack of self-esteem. They learn to have respect for the winner. But what about the “loser”? What about compassion, appreciating each others’ diversity? A missed opportunity in learning compassion and respect.
Life IS actually supposed to be fun
Your visions or beliefs, thoughts and feelings completely and unequivocally impact how successful and happy you will be as a parent, and will treat the loved ones around you.
A child only needs happy parents. And that is often not an easy requirement. Therefore, it is extremely important to explore other possibilities than what you have learned and experienced so far.
This is what I teach…
Carla is a wonderfully bright and shining gem in my life. With her guidance I have reacquainted myself with a life filled with love, laughter and joy. She holds vast clinical, scientific and spiritual knowledge which she lovingly shares to heal and transform those willing to listen and learn. She is authentic and articulate; a real treasure to anyone looking for personal transformation.
Many of you have heard me speak of Carla Van Walsum’s workshops and how wonderful I think she is. I met Carla via her “Happy Children, Happy Home” workshops. I really believe in the work that she’s doing. She certainly helped me and my family discover (or re-discover) how to live with more love, laughter and happiness. I can say, though, that in working with Carla, life is much more pleasant and less stressful for us now than before. Katie Starkey, Ft Lauderdale
“We really appreciate all your guidance and everything we learned from you. You made it really easy for my family. And I could say you changed the way I see life now. Thank you so much!” Venecia Alb, Florida, M.A. Psych.
“Seeking guidance through a method that involves pure love, spirituality, and compassion has helped me with being easier on myself and has taught me how to love myself unconditionally. I see the world through a very different perspective. Carla has enlightened me with her kind, wise, and supportive way. I know she was put in my path for a reason. Her work is truly profound therapy for the heart and soul. Thank you Carla!” A.Rosa M.A .Psychotherapist
Happy Parents, Happy Home!
How to build authentic relationships with true understanding and HeartBased connecting.
When I started in 2008, the first 6 workshop series “Happy Children, Happy Home!” attracted seven mothers and one father. Shortly thereafter, I started the same workshop series again. Now seven fathers and one mother showed up! The partners in the first group had noticed a significant improvement in the relationship with their spouses who took the first series. They saw changes with their children and it motivated them to come as well.
The EBook is supposed to be read FIRST in conjunction with MP#1. Some mp3’s are live-recordings and were a part of the workshops, the others are personally recorded.
Wouldn’t it be nice if…
- You would be heard right away and not have to repeat yourself?
- You would feel confident about how you communicate, have influence and see how your child cooperates?
- You could break the pattern of yelling, arguing etc…?
- You would NOT feel frustrated or exhausted, but instead be enjoying the company of your child?
- You would stop worrying about what you are doing wrong, and begin knowing how to change the situation ?
Unlock your unlimited potential as a parent!
This course helps you to become aware of your unconscious communication patterns, the energy of positive and negative words, and what words you should and shouldn’t say. Topics such as compassion, respect, deliberate creation are part of the curriculum.
Module 1- Authentic Respec
What do you prefer: authentic respect or superficial respect? What is respect actually? How to respond respectfully to your child or teen, in a way that still addresses every need appropriately. Natural respect comes from a place of non-judgmental and unconditional “honor” and being respected is the birthright of every human being.
If a respectful attitude with your children is absent, it’s time to reflect on what is going on and what language is used. Respect is only valuable when it is authentic. Being polite, out of fear for punishment, creates superficial relationships, and alienates us from ourselves and others. If you want to raise your children respectfully, and instill in them sincere respect, real, authentic and heart-based, then the language exercises in this module are for you. Discover why saying: “You are disrespectful” is not effective.
Module 3- Respect
Conscious Heart-Based Communication has answers and tools for creating respect.Respect doesn’t need to be earned. If that would be true then a baby should not be respected because he/she cannot earn anything. Respect is for all ages. If you haven’t received respect how can you become respectful? Not feeling respected is the root of many relationships and communication problems, between adults and in parenting situations. Is your ego hurt or has a deep wound been touched and challenged by certain words or behavior? Any living being deserves respect, as do the animal kingdom and the planet. It starts very basic. But it needs to be real.
Module 4- Connecting Communication
No More Drama: Effective Communication Tools
Learn exactly how to speak in a way that meets everyone’s needs. Yelling and screaming will no longer be a part of your life. Explore the model that teaches you the art of Connecting, Effective Communication where boundaries are honored. Learn what you need in order to face daily challenges without having to threaten or manipulate. No more power struggles or the use of force. Parenting is a journey of self-discovery. Wouldn’t it be great to make some changes so that you will say to yourself: YES! I am really happy to see how harmonious my family has become? Here you’ll find some answers, without using guilt, blame or shame.
Module 5- Love & Communication
CONDITIONAL LOVE versus UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. When we judge and criticize, the old-fashioned way of raising kids, than we are disconnected from love. We were not encouraged to think independently, instead we had to follow strict rules. The former made us dependent on the approval of others. We were punished or rewarded. The love we received was mostly conditional, even though it might have seemed differently. Parents and teachers got angry at us (because their needs were not met) and we were rejected, grounded, punished and all we loved could be taken away. “That’s how we learn.” Really? That power game where the biggest person wins, doesn’t bring the best out of us. If your partner doesn’t do what you want, do you take his phone away? Do you send him out of the room? No, right? Why not teach children to resolve conflicts respectfully and effectively? Every “mistake” is a teachable moment. The conditional love and punishment has many negative side-effects. Learn about alternatives in this module.
Module 6- Punish and Reward
The “punish and reward” method used to get children to cooperate and behave well is widely spread and employed also in the USA , at home and in school. “Do this and you’ll get that”, the punishment-reward paradigm, may seem effective BUT it actually does more harm than good. This audio class teaches you how to empower your child by creating responsible and independent thinking behavior without resorting to the use of “pet-training” techniques on your kids. For centuries the world’s educational system was based on “disciplinarian” corporal punishment and has been exchanged often for more verbal aggressive abuse. The impact of words on our psyche though, is big. The use of high energy words versus low-energy words can elicit totally different behavior. Thoughts as well as words are energy. Verbal abuse is extremely powerful and hurts deep within the soul. Violence is never permitted to teach right from wrong.
Module 7- Authenticity and Needs
|Our feelings are mostly the result of what we think and how we perceive. Our feelings are also connected to our needs. However, we often blame others for how we feel, but our feelings derive from unmet needs. Are our needs for harmony, love, respect or connection met? We often validate the interpretation of our feelings, and making them right and absolute. Nothing is further from the truth. A new thought, a new understanding or interpretation can suddenly change our moods or the way we look at things. “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.” Our deepest desire, to be loved and appreciated for who we are, overshadows all other needs. Raising children can put us in situations that make us feel frustrated, angry or powerless.|
BONUS: Systemic Family Constellations
Get clarity with the understanding of Epigenetics and Trans-Generational Family Dynamics.
You were downloaded with the beliefs of your ancestors in utero and now these experiences are often running your life. Therefore, no matter what you think on a conscious level, your subconscious programming is steering your ship. The good news is that these negative beliefs and eventual burdens can be cleared from us permanently so that we can live a happy, loving and fulfilling life. In this program you will discover how to clear your past inherited beliefs in order to let your true, authentic self shine! When trans-generational trauma shifts and is released with the use of energy-psychology and Family Constellations, our children will benefit from the work we have done on ourselves.
Your EBook/Manual is included, and is the foundation of the Mp3’s.
Happy Parents, Happy Home!™
A roadmap to create YOUR HAPPY Family.
Great Carla. What is all this going to cost me?
Consider it an investment, because it is. It’s an investment in your future, in your family, in your life, in your happiness. No more wasting energy on fighting and frustration. My personal clients pay me thousands to help themselves through this EXACT same system! And…it is a compilation from many years and sessions.
But guess what? It’s not going to cost you thousands.
For a limited time you’ll only pay
$97 (Was $147)
$197 (Was $247)
Package A + a 90-minute private session
To your overflowing happiness and success!
With Love & Kindness,
P.S. Please don’t let this be one more thing you need to “think about.”
Nothing will keep you from your dreams faster than delaying decisions.
$97 (Was $147)
$197 (Was $297)
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